One question that has plagued me since I was a child, which I have yet to find the answer to and probably never will is this. How can you see or witness the self destruction of a loved one and not feel completely helpless about not being able to do anything about it to stop them. (Yes you can pray and that makes a world of a difference but I referring to actual action) If you try to ignore it you feel guilty in doing so, if you try to help, you get pushed away and rejected. I